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Is Who You're Looking for Looking for You?

  • Writer: Jessica
    Jessica
  • Apr 12, 2018
  • 2 min read

Updated: Apr 17, 2018


A boy asked his mom, “How will I be able to find the right woman for me?” The mom answered, “Don’t worry about finding the right woman; concentrate on becoming the right man.”


We’ve all spoken the words: “I just want to find the person that's right for me.”


A friend and I were having a conversation and I told him there is some selfishness to the things that women require of men. Short of Jesus, we want a man that makes six figures, drives a Range Rover, loves dogs, lives in a loft, no kids, debt free, three degrees, volunteers at the homeless shelter, a deacon at the church, mentors troubled youth, likes poetry, likes kids, likes your kids, likes your sister’s kids, speaks five languages, perfect teeth, can predict our mood swings, likes to travel, cooks, perfect credit, and listens.


It made me think, “are those traits, characteristics, and accomplishments even possessed by those asking?” Most of the time the answer is a resounding “NO!” That’s an ideal; something straight out of a book. My friend further challenged my thinking by asking, “what if we [men] had a list like that?” The point is, if you desire that type of person then become that person. If you aren’t the person you’re describing, then it’s unfair to the other person who does posses these qualities. They may be looking for someone who can match them or better.


I’m not just speaking on a physical level. Becoming the right person has a lot to do with your emotional well-being. It goes without saying that you and your significant other won’t be identical. That would cancel out the beauty of uniqueness; therefore one of you wouldn’t be necessary, but rather you’ll complement one another.


Right attracting right begins with you. It is well within your control to become the right person. Not that you shouldn’t ask, but asking for “the one” without first becoming “the one” comes from a place of selfishness and maybe even laziness. Seeking to become the right person puts you in a position to give and not be needy. Until that one comes along, focus on becoming spiritually, emotionally, physically, and financially right. Focus on being That Good Thing.


 
 
 

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Apr 12, 2018

Thank you for these helpful tips, I will be sure to check in again soon!

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